This is a very easy question for me to answer because if you’re not married, then submitting your will is obviously a choice and not something that you have to do. So, in essence, outside of marriage it really depends on how much you’re digging the guy that you’re with.
When you’re in a marriage, submitting your will to a man means that you are willing to put your needs, wants, and desires in the hands of your husband because it is also expected that he is going to provide for and protect you. I’m not so sure that I’m willing to do that completely with a man that’s just my boyfriend. Now, yes, relationships have different phases, and with each phase, your trust grows with that person. But I am still under no obligation towards the individual I am in a relationship with. What I mean by obligation is, I am not under any authority to have to stay in a relationship with you, take care of you when you are sick, or assist in the provisions of caretaker for the home. If I happen to do those things out of the kindness of my heart, that’s one thing, but that obligation for me does not happen until marriage.
The problem is the expectations people bring into relationships. As a girlfriend, I am not obligated to submit to you at all; I should, however, have a certain level of trust towards you. If you treat me well, then I should by all means treat you well, but treating someone well is all subjective depending on that person’s needs and wants. But to expect someone to do anything outside of treating you well and respecting you is an expectation that, in my opinion, belongs in a marriage. I don’t expect my boyfriend to pay my bills or to run errands for my mother/father, but if he decides that’s something that he wants to do, without any expectation from me, then that’s okay.
So, with that being said, ladies, if you want to submit to a man that is not your husband, then that is up to you, but it is not necessary in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. Again, that doesn’t mean that you can’t do nice things for him, that means in order for him to receive wife privileges he needs to make you a wife. Submission is in the duties of a wife, not a girlfriend. Now one might argue, how is a person supposed to know if a woman will submit to you when you get married if she doesn’t do it beforehand.
I’d say, it’s all in the character of that woman, watch how she responds to you, her parents, her brothers and uncles. Does she demonstrate patience, understanding, and kindness towards others in certain situations? How are her communication skills? Does she yell and scream when she’s talking to you or is she slow to speak and quick to listen? So, it’s not just about how she treats you, but also how she responds to others as well.
With all that being said, ladies, stop giving boyfriend husband privileges when they haven’t made you their wife. Submission = Wifehood.
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