By Augustus Golden
Most men want a good girl, but many others want a bad girl depending on their taste and their station in life. A good girl is the kind you bring home to momma and hope to one day have in a family picture on your desk along with a couple of kids, whereas a bad girl is that fun girl that makes life exciting and helps you get in touch with your inner badass until you‘re ready for the good girl.
The reality is there are very few women who neatly fit into either of those categories because the world isn’t just black or white; it’s filled with shades of grey.
I mean how do you classify La Tonya, the virgin stripper; Kennedy, the serial monogamist (who’s slept with thirty men but never cheated on any of them) or Jackie who goes to work every weekday, church every Sunday, pays her tithes and her taxes, but is having an affair with her boss?
You walk into a bar and see a girl with tattoo sleeves and a tongue ring throwing down shots: does that make her a bad girl? You go to church and marvel at the star of the choir singing her heart out: does that make her a good girl? What if you knew the tattoo girl regularly volunteered at a home for the elderly, or if you knew the choir girl was selling weed to the other choir members? Would that color your perception of them?
So what’s a brother to do? How can you tell if she’s marriage material or even girlfriend material? Well, I’ve discovered the best way to tell is to need her. Break a leg, total your car, get evicted, lose your job, have a death in your family. Is she there for you? Will she drive you around while your leg is broken or your car is totaled? Will she offer to take you in when you’ve been laid off and/or evicted? Is she standing beside you at the funeral even if it’s a workday?
If you answered no to all of the above, it does not matter how virtuous or chaste she may appear, you may not want her as your go to girl. Conversely, if you answered yes to any of these, it does not matter if she’s a stripper, serial monogamist or had an indiscretion, I say, she may not be a “good girl” but she’s damn sure a “good catch!”
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October 1, 2013 at 1:02 pm
Hmph…I just want to be the right woman for the right man. No one is all the way good anyway. We all have dichotomies that we either accept or struggle with. I tote the “girl next door” type of vibe, and I’m cool starting right in that lane.