Some women have a lot of masculine energy, either by nature or nurture. With an abundance of this masculine energy a woman will attract a man who may seem a bit delicate and/or bump heads with a man who himself gives off an abundance of masculine energy so don’t blame society for the ‘lack of strong men’, because they are out there. The fact is, your energy simply repels them.
I actually used to have more masculine energy. My mother was a Black Panther and a gangster, and very smart and demonstrative with her intelligence. Under her roof, with her guidelines and principles, it was her way or the highway. I learned from the best. I was also an athlete, very competitive academically & physically and achieved much success because of it. I was smarter and could out-run, out-climb and out-think most of the boys in my neighborhood and I was relentless in proving it but as I became more happy with myself I no longer felt the need to prove myself to others or control my relationship (or the person in it). My emotional security became strengthened and I began falling into my natural feminine way.
There is NOTHING wrong with a woman naturally having a lot of masculine energy. I’d just like to stress that the Alpha male will usually decline your offer, not because you are not a great woman but because you do not balance him out. Feminine energy is nurturing, gentle, loving, healing, intuitive, receptive, calm, creative (right brain) and allowing. Masculine energy is firm, protective, analytical, concrete, striving, assertive, hard, logical (left brain) and controlling. We ALL have a combination of both energies. For a relationship to be successful, the energy must be balanced. For those women out there who have an overage of masculine energy by nurture (circumstance, development and upbringing) they are usually seen as ‘taking care’ of their men. To us, from the outside looking in, their men seem like their children. Women resent this, and they are often found complaining about their men and circumstances. I call them ‘barking’ women, i.e., the ‘I don’t need a man’ women. Those women usually end up taking care of their partners or have a more dominant role in the relationship if they choose to have one with a man that they attract. They resent this position because it is not who they are naturally, they are upset with life, and their knee-jerk reactions to their circumstances make them cold, short-tempered, unhappy, confrontational and eventually hardened, too hardened to welcome any new companion in.
With that kind of masculine energy flowing, she will attract a man who is needier and more receptive. He will be more of a follower than a leader. This is why it’s usually women with an abundance of masculine energy complaining about how weak men are in this world. What they don’t know is that they are just attracting their compliment. This does not necessarily mean he will be weak. This is not about weak vs. strong, as there is a lot of strength in femininity (being gentle/patient), THIS is about feminine vs. masculine.
If you’re a woman with an overage of masculine energy, you will certainly bump heads with the Alpha male and attract a man with more ‘feminine’ energy so don’t be mad at them. For us women, life and the circumstances that surround us have caused us to become stronger but we must remember to be this WITHOUT sacrificing our warmth.
Copyright January 2012.
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