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th (7)
June 1, 2014 0 Comments

ELAINE’S LOVE LAWS

This article is a rebuttal to all the daily negativity seen on social media in conjunction with love, marriage, and relationships.  Love needs an advocate so let’s get straight to it with Elaine’s love laws. LOVE DOESN’T KEEP SCORE: There are no perfect people.  Not me and not you.  People are flawed.  Love isn’t about keeping track of their missteps, it’s about extending constant grace and forgiveness to those who mess up.  Your mates are humans so they’re going to slip up and you need to accept that.  If you think people should get it right on your terms and when […]

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th3Z89Y57C
May 19, 2014 15 Comments

THE PRACTICE WIFE

Recently I’ve discovered a new category of woman who I call “The Practice Wife.” These women are kind, articulate, smart, supportive and accomplished. Additionally, they are usually attractive and people consider them “catches” so nobody can figure out why they are single. I was intrigued by these women because when you take a closer look they all share something noteworthy. After a breakup, the men they were involved with, quickly find another woman and get married.  Usually there is no apparent upgrade from the practice wife to the actual wife so I really wanted to know what the heck was […]

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thN5Y6E4CU
April 24, 2014 0 Comments

Marriage! What’s in it for Men?

I recently asked my Facebook friends why men should get married and to no surprise, there were a lot of crickets.  A few of my more religious friends quoted the scripture “He who finds a wife finds a good thing,” some made reference to tax breaks and of course there were the claims that married men live longer. Now I’m not one to contradict the good book but I really feel that passage should read “He who finds a good wife finds a good thing,” because a bad wife can mess up your life worse than a bad boss can.  […]

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arm wresstling
January 1, 2014 0 Comments

How Submissive Should A Woman Be To Her Man?

This is a very easy question for me to answer because if you’re not married, then submitting your will is obviously a choice and not something that you have to do. So, in essence, outside of marriage it really depends on how much you’re digging the guy that you’re with. When you’re in a marriage, submitting your will to a man means that you are willing to put your needs, wants, and desires in the hands of your husband because it is also expected that he is going to provide for and protect you. I’m not so sure that I’m […]

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Check Mark 5
December 7, 2013 1 Comment

Relationship Reality Check

I fancy myself a people watcher. I observe and listen well. As I sojourn through life via varying social events and mediums, I encounter individuals across all racial, religious, and socioeconomic backgrounds. No matter the age, sex, or sexual orientation, there is a one consistent shared fiber that runs through this colorful tapestry: relationship “issues.” One recurring problem that is always like the pink elephant in the room is the misconception of what a relationship really is–what a healthy, thriving relationship consists of. Here is the summation of what years of my experiences have yielded. I won’t redundantly spew out […]

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Girl Dude
December 7, 2013 2 Comments

Growing up Without a Father: Confessions of a Girl Dude

Admission is the key to healing. Acceptance is a part of recovery. And change is essential in resolution. I am a 33 year old woman who is still learning to be a woman. An interesting thing happens to some females when a father figure is absent. She begins to take on the social attributes of the missing male. She becomes tough, rough, hard, and independent.  Feeling vulnerable is foreign and seeing vulnerability is out of the question.  She becomes a Girl Dude. Over the course of adolescence and through teen years, Girl Dude develops habits. For her, the company of […]

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Benefits 2
November 11, 2013 0 Comments

Friends With Benefits Part 2

Last week I addressed the fellas, now on to my ladies. Girls, I just have to say it; this friends with benefits thing is a fail in the grand scheme of things. I realize we live in the day and age of “I am woman hear me roar,” “I love me,” “I’m getting mine,” “A girl got needs,” etc. But if we would really keep it 100% real with ourselves, we don’t want to just be a physical release outlet for our “buddies”…do we? Ok, so we’re busy with careers and kids, so we’re up to our eyeballs with the lies […]

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Infidelity
November 10, 2013 8 Comments

The Married Man’s Choice

I’m at a grocery store, and I see Tim. Tim is the father of my daughter’s classmate. Tim is married. We stop. We talk about school, the kids, and the Lakers. We laugh. We say goodbye. I arrive at my car with a note stating, “Let’s meet privately…soon.” I smile. I’m at a hotel lobby having a drink. I meet Matt. Married for 13 years, two daughters, and very handsome. We shared a drink, and I learned he was an accountant from Chicago here on business. After a half hour, he left. But before he did, he gave me his […]

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Fakebook 4
November 10, 2013 4 Comments

How to Win at Facebook Romances

So you’re in a secret Facebook group with some really cool people from all across the country. Some know each other, but many have never actually met in person. You all are just like-minded people that the page administrator thought would be a good mix to make interesting conversation while you pass the day away during downtime. At some point, you start to get a feeling for the various online personalities in the group. The Topic Master, who keeps the conversation going with interesting post; The One Line Artist, who keeps you laughing; the Laughers, who LOL at the drop […]

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forgive
November 10, 2013 0 Comments

Forgiveness

Forgiveness. Why do we have to forgive? Is there really any good in forgiveness? Someone sent a question to my Facebook page on the topic of forgiveness and restoration. What I found out is that many people have a problem with forgiving. We know that it is humanly impossible to actually forget the event(s) that occurred where someone caused harm or hurt to you. But with forgiveness, it is possible to move on and gain some insight as to why that person caused harm to you and possibly restore that person. If we look outside ourselves for a moment and […]

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